In a culture driven by instant responses—whether in the workplace, on social media, or in personal relationships—pausing can feel like falling behind. But according to leadership coaches Linda Schubring and Brian Schubring, that constant pressure to react quickly may be doing more harm than good.
The USA Today bestselling authors of Unfolded: Lessons in Transformation from an Origami Crane argue that the modern demand for speed is quietly eroding confidence and weakening decision-making. Instead of building clarity, rapid responses often lead individuals to second-guess themselves, creating a cycle of doubt that compounds over time.
“Fast” doesn’t always mean “effective,” they suggest. In fact, consistently reacting without reflection can cause people to lose touch with their own instincts and values. While outwardly they may appear adaptable, internally they begin to feel disconnected from their sense of direction.
The Schubrings emphasize a different approach—one rooted in intentional pause. Reflection, they say, is not a delay tactic but a leadership skill. Taking time to process information, assess emotions, and align decisions with personal values can actually strengthen confidence and lead to better outcomes.
One of the key distinctions they highlight is the difference between adapting and over-adjusting. Adapting allows individuals to evolve in response to change while staying grounded in who they are. Over-adjusting, on the other hand, often means bending too far to external pressures, resulting in a loss of identity and clarity.
This distinction becomes especially important in high-pressure environments, where quick decisions are often expected. Without a moment to reflect, people may prioritize immediate approval or conflict avoidance over long-term alignment. Over time, that pattern can weaken both leadership presence and personal conviction.
Relationships also play a crucial role in this process. According to the Schubrings, trusted connections can provide perspective and support, helping individuals make braver, more thoughtful choices. Rather than reacting in isolation, leaders who engage with others are better equipped to navigate uncertainty with confidence.
With more than 25 years of experience, the Schubrings have guided professionals through change using principles grounded in positive psychology and applied neuroscience. Their message is simple but powerful: growth doesn’t require abandoning who you are.
In a world that rewards speed, choosing to slow down—even briefly—may be the key to stronger leadership, clearer thinking, and lasting self-assurance.